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For Club Kids, Promoting Positivity is the Key to Bullying Prevention

Monica Lombardo • October 2, 2019
For nearly 15 years, October has been nationally recognized as #BullyingPreventionMonth and utilized as a platform to educate children, adults, schools, and communities about bullying prevention. At the Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South, we work hard every day to provide safe, fun environments in which our members can learn and thrive. To achieve these environments it’s essential to teach our youth about healthy relationships, the detrimental effects of bullying, and the importance of creating a welcoming atmosphere for everyone at our Clubs.

Bullying is defined as acts of aggression that reflect a real or perceived power imbalance. It is typically a repeated action and can be verbal, social, physical, or cyber-based. According to the United States Government’s Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention, led by the Department of Education and Department of Human Health Services, 1 in 5 students between the ages of 12 and 18 experience bullying. According to the same interagency, bullying can result in reduced interest or avoidance of school and activities, decreased achievement, lowered self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. Youth who bully others are more likely to get in fights, vandalize property, drop out of school, be abusive in romantic relationships, abuse drugs, and alcohol, and generally commit crimes as adults.

Our mission at the Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South is to “nurture strong minds, healthy bodies, and community spirit through youth-driven, high-impact programming in safe and fun environments.” We understand that bullying prevention within our Clubs and among our members is a critical part of setting our kids on the path to #GreatFutures. By setting high expectations, fostering a sense of belonging, and providing opportunities for growth and development for all of our members, we aim to empower our youth to become caring and responsible young adults.

At the Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South, our number one priority is member safety. This means creating a culture of acceptance and a safe environment where positive peer to peer interactions take place. We believe that youth need to learn about the importance of positive relationships, conflict resolution, and confidence through working with mentors, educational activities, and positive through reinforcement. 

According to a nationwide bullying study conducted in 2018 by Ditch the Label, an anti-bullying charity, over a third of bullies surveyed said that they do not spend a lot of time with their parents or guardians. A similar number also said that they experience arguments at home every day. Many reported that they had experienced trauma in the last 5 years - including their parents divorcing or the loss of a family member, or even the birth of a sibling. According to this study, other factors that contribute to bullying behavior include decreased access to education, insecurity in relationships, or low self-esteem linked to experiencing bullying themselves. 

Most generally, bullying stems from poor stress management, inability to build positive relationships, and low self-esteem. At the Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South, we offer programs that help youth develop these crucial skills. Positive Social-Emotional Development is one of our most important goals for our members. Social-emotional development improves youth's readiness to learn, self-confidence, behavior, academic performance, and overall personal development. Nurturing our members’ development not only helps to prevent bullying, it is also vital to their successful futures in society. Socially and emotionally competent youth are better prepared to navigate the world around them and are more likely to succeed in school, at our Clubs, and in life. 

88% of our members feel safer at our
Clubs compared to other places,
according to an April 2019 survey
of our member’s attitudes about
their Club experience.

Our Clubs run targeted programming specially designed to help foster our youth’s personal development. Passport to Manhood engages adolescent boys in discussions and activities that reinforce character, leadership, and positive behavior as they make the transition from adolescence to manhood. 2 out of 3 bullies are males, and boys are statistically less likely to positively cope with their emotions than girls. For our female members, our SMART Girls program helps adolescent girls explore their attitudes and values as they build skills for eating right, staying physically fit, getting good health care, and developing positive relationships with peers and adults. These crucial programs prepare our members for positive conflict resolution, help them build self-awareness and confidence, and provide them with platforms to discuss their values and beliefs. 

Beyond these small group programs, we also strive to create opportunities for our members to form meaningful, positive relationships with a variety of mentors. Mentors at our Clubs include our excellent team of youth development professionals, Club alumni, and older current members. Buddy Chats are group-based mentoring activities that provide a platform for our members to open up to staff and to each other. Every Friday afternoon, youth are divided by grade level and groups are given their own space to discuss relevant, potentially difficult topics such as bullying or mental health. They also discuss resources and techniques to help them face these kinds of issues and talk about what they can do to prevent negative situations for themselves and their peers. 

Personal responsibility, commitment to others, and high standards of conduct are also encouraged and formally recognized through our Member of the Month and Youth of the Year programs. Each month, one member from our 5 to12-year-old pre-teen cohort and one member from our 13 to 18-year-old teen cohort is selected as a Member of the Month, an honor earned by demonstrating strong leadership and outstanding character. Our members are further encouraged to exhibit excellent character through our annual Youth of the Year competition, which is aligned with the Boys & Girls Clubs of America National Youth of the Year program and honors the extraordinary achievements of teenage Club members across the nation.

The high expectations and sense of belonging we work to foster at our Clubs let our members know that their opinions are heard and that they have the ability to contribute in meaningful ways and positively influence others. Providing our members with a sense of belonging and the opportunity for growth within our Clubs also helps them build a sense of pride in their actions and confidence in themselves. 

Bullying prevention runs much deeper than encouraging our members to use kind words. Through our programs focused on the whole person, social-emotional development, and mentoring, we are working against bullying by helping to build strong, resilient, and considerate young people who are poised to lead #greatfutures and lift up others along the way.
By Monica Lombardo June 5, 2023
On May 5th, Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South was recognized as “the safest Club in the nation” when we were awarded Boys & Girls Clubs of America’s 2023 Culture of Safety Award at BGCA’s 2023 National Conference in Orlando, Florida. As BGCA’s most coveted and prestigious national safety designation, the Culture of Safety Award is awarded annually to the local Club that best exemplifies an organization-wide commitment to physical and emotional safety. BGCMS was selected from more than 5,000 Clubs nationwide to receive this award. An award ceremony was held during BGCA’s 117th National Conference in Orlando, Florida, which was attended by representatives from thousands of local Boys & Girls Clubs across the United States. During the ceremony, BGCMS President & CEO, Derek Heim, was invited onstage to accept the award and share a few words about the Clubs’ mission and commitment to safety. “Safety is our number one priority,” Heim said. “We practice safety day in and day out. At BGCMS, every individual—from Club members all the way to the Board of Directors—is charged with keeping themselves and others safe.” Our commitment to safety is apparent in every aspect of leadership communication with staff and community members, including email messages, phone calls, and in-person conversations. Parents, staff, and community members can clearly recognize the critical role that safety has in Club strategy, programs, and operations. This award serves as a testament to BGCMS’s exceptional efforts in promoting safety throughout the organization and the broader community. Comprehensive training in child abuse prevention is required for all full-time and part-time staff. All staff are also required to download CrisisGo, an app that sends instant alerts and step-by-step guidelines in the event of an emergency. This year, our Clubs implemented WAVE, a drowning detection and prevention system. WAVE utilizes a comfortable, lightweight, head-band-like device to monitor how long each swimmer's face is fully submerged underwater. If someone submerges beyond the maximum safe allowable time, the WAVE system immediately alerts lifeguards so they can intervene – well before the event can turn dangerous. Throughout the past several years, our Clubs have been instrumental in implementing innovative safety programs and practices in the areas of facility improvement, emergency preparedness, and holistic youth well-being. BGCMS is honored to receive this award in recognition of its comprehensive safety efforts and is committed to continuing its innovative approaches as a community leader in safety.
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What does an after school program look like when there is no longer a traditional school day? That’s the question that Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South has been working hard to answer since the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic forced our temporary closure back in mid-March. Our Clubs have continuously looked for new ways to adapt to meet the challenges of this not soon to be forgotten year. In March, our Club leadership quickly sprang into action, pivoting our long running daily Kids Café healthy meals program to a “ Grab & Go ” style weeknight dinner service just two days after first closing our doors, in order to ensure that youth who might not otherwise have consistent access to healthy meals could receive free and nutritious dinners that could be picked up from either our Brockton or Taunton Clubhouse and eaten safely in their own home. Ever since, our Clubs have been adapting swiftly and intentionally to continue serving youth in need, beginning with the launch of our “Club at Home” virtual programming suite which provided 5-10 virtual activities and programs for youth each weekday through the end of the school year in June. As spring turned to summer, our focus turned to safely operating the summer programs at Camp Riverside in Taunton and at Camp Brookside at our Brockton Clubhouse. That meant reducing the daily capacity in camp programs to around 250 youth per day compared to the more than 500 youth served each day in 2019 summer camp programs in order to ensure social distancing could be observed and group sizes limited to no more than 10 youth. We extended the summer camp season at both camps by two weeks, offering full-day programming through Labor Day in response to the delayed start to the 2020-2021 school year. When the school year did finally arrive, our Clubs were ready to spring into action again. On September 21st, we launched full-day Learning Pods programs at both our Brockton and Taunton Clubhouses. The program day begins at 7:30 a.m. and provides youth with a safe and supportive place to do their remote learning while parents and guardians return to work. When the classwork portion of the day concludes, our Clubs revert to their roots -- offering many of the traditional after school enrichment programs and recreational activities which our members have enjoyed through the years. “It’s more important now than ever that youth have a place where they can receive support for their social-emotional needs and for many kids, without in-person school, our Clubs are the only place where they receive that intentional support,” - Samantha Fagundes , Taunton Clubhouse Executive Director With this in mind, our Clubs have made intentional adaptations to ensure programs were poised to meet the evolving needs of members as they returned to the Clubhouse this fall. In developing our programs for this school year we worked harder than ever to ensure that our programs included opportunities for youth to have a voice -- providing enriching hands-on and interactive experiences. In our Learning Pods, youth are divided by grade level into groups of up to 10 students with dedicated staff assigned to each pod. Each Clubhouse is currently serving approximately 60 children per day in Learning Pods -- in addition to another 50 or so youth per Clubhouse who are enrolled in licensed school age child care programs -- and all youth receive breakfast, lunch, and snacks as part of the programming day. In the morning, youth log in to their remote classes and participate in their school’s assigned curriculum from algebra to physical education, all within their pod. After the school day wraps up, our pods participate in rotating supplementary enrichment activities including gym games, computer skill-building, arts and crafts, STEM exploration, and outdoor play. Our Learning Pods provide kids with in-person staff support during their remote learning along with the enrichment and socialization that they would otherwise miss out on by being away from their traditional classroom environment. So far, this model has been a winning formula, giving kids that might otherwise be home alone a chance to thrive in a familiar environment and giving parents peace of mind that their children are safe and supported throughout the day. “ I really love the staff members here and that I’m able to see my friends, ” says Story , a 9-year-old enrolled in the 4th grade Learning Pod at the Taunton Clubhouse. Her friend and classmate Maya , also 9, agrees. “ I think online school is easier here than at home because I’m around 4th graders like me, ” said Maya when asked about the challenges of switching to remote schooling. With the help of support systems like these, students are finding new successes in their online classes, making friends, and getting the space they need to safely play and grow. “Fittingly, the kids here at the Brockton Clubhouse are handling this change like champions... Virtual learning is not easy for anyone but they are doing their best to keep learning and growing.” - Rachel Dawson , Brockton Clubhouse Sr. Program Director In Brockton , in addition to running a full-day Learning Pods program, we are also operating one of the only dedicated in-person teen programs in the city at this time. The daily activity slate kicks off at 2:30 p.m. each weekday with homework help and dedicated study spaces available for teens to pre-book. Elective enrichment programs like songwriting and music production, college prep, and small group mentoring begin around 4:30 p.m. each day. At our Brockton Clubhouse we have also introduced a refreshed version of our “ Money Matters ” financial literacy program which is sponsored by SCU Credit Union . The program teaches our teen members best practices for saving, budgeting, paying for college, and other valuable financial skills they will need as they enter early adulthood. Also in October, we began offering a teen Healthy Relationships 101 peer leaders program aiming to combat dating violence in partnership with Family and Community Resources, Inc. and Cape Verdean Women’s United through grant funding from the Dept. of Public Health. Marisa Nieves , College & Career Access Director at the Brockton Clubhouse, can’t overstate the importance of having a safe place for teens during the coronavirus pandemic, saying: “When our teens returned in late September they hadn’t been in the building since mid-March and they really needed a place to have safe social interactions... Ultimately, it’s about giving them a space where they can grow and feel connected through our programming." For Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South, 2020 has been about adapting our longstanding formula for impact to meet new challenges as they arise, and meeting those challenges head-on with resiliency and compassion for those most impacted by the social and economic effects of this sustained global health crisis. Adaptation has now become second nature, and despite all the challenges the year at hand has presented to our Clubs, we continue to live out their mission in support of the youth who depend on us. “Across the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and across the Boys & Girls Clubs of America Movement, our rallying cry has been ‘ Whatever it takes to build great futures ’ for Club kids and this year it’s certainly taken more than any of us could have imagined. “I couldn’t be more proud of our organization and especially our frontline program staff for the flexibility and resilience they have shown these past 8 months... They may not realize it but our kids are learning so much just by watching how our staff team -- their mentors -- have risen to the occasion. I know that when we come through this we’ll all be coming away with a renewed sense of purpose and newfound confidence that we stand ready to take on any challenge that comes our way, together. ” - Derek Heim, BGCMS President & CEO One thing is for sure here at Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro South... today and every day we will continue to adapt, overcome, and we will continue to do whatever it takes to build great futures .
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